Anger - How can hypnotherapy treat anger & control emotions.
Understanding how the brain works and why we might become angry can help us to learn how to control our emotions. Then we can learn how to respond in a more rational and effective way. You will be able to manage situations in a calm, controlled way.
‘Having a moment', 'blowing off steam' can be helpful for releasing tension but for some people it can go too far.
When we’re stressed it can often manifest itself as anger (the fight aspect of our natural, primitive response to survival – fight, flight, freeze). However, feeling cross, losing our temper, flying off the handle, striking out usually makes situations worse and leaves us and those around us feeling confused and upset. When we respond with the fight primitive response it’s when we feel someone or something has encroached on our territory. We are effectively trying to defend that territory, whether that’s our physical territory or internal territory.
We can’t change other people’s behaviour but we can change how we respond to them for a more effective outcome.
The initial consultation is designed to assess what you want to achieve and how hypnotherapy can help you. You will begin to understand why you lose your temper and feel you have no control over it and more importantly what can be done to help you.
We do not use hypnosis in this first session. You will learn in more detail about the different parts of the brain, why we respond with the primitive brain and how we can ‘move’ to the rational, sensible part, the pre-frontal cortex.
You’ll learn that when we move into the fight response our left-prefrontal cortex is also stimulated. This is where out logical thinking takes place, which is one of the reasons why we feel justified for our outburst.
High levels of angry arousal decreases our ability to concentrate and this makes it difficult for memories to form. This is why we find it difficult to remember details of really explosive arguments and can lead to confusion and sometimes disbelief of what actually happened.
Subsequent sessions involve much more than hypnosis. During the first part of each session we’ll talk about the progress you have made and I’ll encourage you to think about times where you have kept your control and how you’ve done this. You’ll start to notice pleasing and beneficial changes in the way you respond to people and situations that would have upset or frustrated you in the past.
I’ll help you to imagine how you would like to respond and I’ll then guide you into a relaxed state of hypnosis so that we can consolidate what we have discussed.
We all experience trance (hypnotic state) in our everyday lives.
Have you ever driven home and not remembered part of the journey, or been engrossed in a book and not been conscious of time passing? If so you have been in a state of focused attention, not unlike the feeling of being hypnotised. You were conscious and had not fallen asleep but your mind was ‘elsewhere’.
Hypnosis is a state of focused attention and can be reached in an induced state of deep relaxation. In this relaxed state, your mind is more responsive to suggestions. In a therapeutic setting, the suggestions are designed to be beneficial to help you change unhelpful thought patterns to positive solutions.
In SFH we use an indirect language pattern to replicate the daydream state. This is when we consolidate memory and make changes. What we are consolidating is the conversation (talking therapy) we’ve had prior to the trance. The suggestions the client is ‘open’ to are their own.
During hypnosis I will guide you into a similar state so that beneficial suggestions can be directed towards your subconscious mind.
One of the main ‘causes’ for our anger is other people. You coming to see me for Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is not a magic wand and we can’t wish that other people will change. What we can do is support your change in the way you respond to them to achieve the best outcome for you.
Clients have commented that their relationship with their partners, children, work colleagues has greatly improved because they have managed the situations so much better. Annoying people may still well be annoying but it won’t bother you as much.
It will be the same with situations over which you have no control. You may still not like the situation but you’ll be able to focus on managing how you respond in a more helpful way.
One of the advantages of Solution Focused Hypnotherapy is that I don’t need to know the full details of why a client has come to see me.
Some people are embarrassed by their angry outbursts and might not seek help to control them, with the consequences that they can become more and more out of control. They might tell me ‘I get a bit cross sometimes’ and I don’t need to know if that’s the odd swearing at inanimate objects or hurling things around the room. The focus is about what they would like the outcome to be.
I’m sure some clients never tell me the full extent of the impact anger has had on their lives. Others open up fairly quickly, once they realise that I am non-judgemental. I am passionate about people making positive changes, not just for themselves but for others around them.
If you’d like help managing your anger please give me a call. As with all my other services, I offer a confidential service for those wishing to make changes.
Anyone who wants to change the way they respond to situations in a more positive way is welcome through my ‘virtual door’.